Forgiveness

“Therefore, I tell you, people will be forgiven every sin and blasphemy, but blasphemy against the Spirit will not be forgive.” (Matthew 12:31)
 
Forgiveness at times can feel hard to do. To forgive someone who has deeply hurt you and caused severe pain and suffering can be difficult. The emotional and physical damage is there it will never go away. Forgiveness is not forgetting or pretending that what happened did not happen. Forgiveness and forgetting are two different things a person can be forgiven however, we still remember the act that was done.

When we choose to forgive someone, we longer mention past hurts with the person however, we can seek help from professional counselors or guidance from pastors. We can focus on healing, try and understand the situation from offender’s viewpoint, let go of grudges, and set healthy boundaries. For forgiveness to happen there should be acknowledgment of the hurt and time to process the emotions. It is okay to allow yourself to feel angry at the person or the situation but, we should not act upon the anger.

Forgiveness should not be rushed but allowance be made to process through emotions and actively commit to forgiveness. There are times when we are triggered and memories of the hurt will resurface; however, there must be an active commitment to forgive the person not to show bitterness or hold a grudge. Forgiveness takes time. The Holy Spirit helps us forgive. The first step is to pray to God over the situation. Depend on God as he changes your heart and develop healthy boundaries.
 
Heavenly Father, may we forgive as you have forgiven us.
 
Walking with you,
Stacy Wakins
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